3 Rules for Dressing Sexy at Any Age (MTF Transgender / Crossdressing Tips)

A common mistake some crossdressers and transgender women make is dressing too sexy. This often looks ridiculous – ESPECIALLY as you get older.

Does that mean you need to turn down your sex appeal after a certain age?

Absolutely not!

Instead, simply follow these 3 rules for dressing sexy at any age:

Rule #1: Show some skin (just not too much)


Short skirts and low cut tops are undeniably sexy, but you shouldn’t go too far with this. Here are a couple guidelines to keep in mind:

  • Your skirt should be no shorter than fingertip length when you stand with your arms to your sides.

  • Your top should show no more than 40% of your bust.

At the same time, you shouldn’t be TOO covered up since that just screams “old lady.” Show off your feminine assets, but do so in a tasteful and classy way.

Rule #2: Find the right proportions

Proportion refers to the way your clothes work together in length, width, size and volume.

For example:

  • A short skirt paired with a short top tends to look slutty.

  • A long skirt paired with a long top looks dowdy.

  • A full skirt paired with a full top makes you look heavy.

  • A tight skirt paired with a tight top can make you look like a sausage (unless you have a perfect body!).

You should never go too far in any one direction. That means if you wear something tight or skimpy, you should balance things out with the rest of your outfit.

For example:

  • A short skirt should be paired with a more covered top.

  • A skimpy top should be paired with a more covered bottom.

  • A tight skirt should be paired with a fuller top.

  • A tight top should be paired with a fuller skirt.

Rule #3: Wear luxurious fabrics

The final piece of the sexy puzzle is the fabrics you wear.

Think slutty and what comes to mind? A spandex skirt, barely there glittery top, and patent leather stripper boots, right?

Sexy, on the other hand, is associated with luxurious fabrics like silk, velvet, lace, and cashmere.

When shopping for clothes, look for fabrics that are rich and sensuous – rather than cheap and tacky.

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Final thoughts …

The bottom line is that you are NEVER too old to be your sexy femme self. Just be sure to keep it classy.

As always, I’ve love to hear your thoughts on this topic. Please leave me your comments below!

And if you’re already mastered the art of sexy ageless dressing, don’t forget to include a photo. 🙂

Lingerie Poll: For Crossdressers and MTF Transgender Women

Do you love wearing lingerie?

I’m guessing the answer is YES! There’s nothing as feminine as beautiful lingerie, so please take my LINGERIE POLL and share your thoughts below!
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6 Feminization Tips from Old Hollywood (For Crossdressers and MTF Transgender Women)

On your journey to becoming a fabulous female, it helps to look at role models. Some of my favorite examples of beauty and femininity are the leading ladies of Old Hollywood.

Want to add more sparkle and glamour to your life? Try these 6 tips from Old Hollywood that can be applied to your own feminine transformation!


“I think that the most important thing a woman can have – next to talent, of course – is her hairdresser.” – Joan Crawford

Few things have a bigger impact on your appearance than your hair. This applies whether you wear a wig or style your own natural hair. If you want to look younger, prettier, and more feminine, the right hairstyle is the secret. Here are the 6 best hairstyles for crossdressers and transgender women.


“Nothing makes a woman more beautiful than the belief that she is beautiful.” – Sophia Loren

All the lipstick, hairspray, and surgery in the world can’t make you beautiful if you don’t feel it on the inside. Instead of comparing yourself to others, focus on your own unique beauty and femininity. Take the advice of Sophia Loren and believe that you are beautiful.


“Elegance is the only beauty that never fades.” – Audrey Hepburn

Who could be more elegant than Audrey Hepburn herself? With her sophisticated style and graceful demeanor, she’s my favorite example of ladylike elegance. If you want to emulate Audrey Hepburn, you can start by avoiding these 5 mistakes that make you less ladylike.


“I have used all the manure that has been thrown on me as fertilizer to make me stronger.” – Eartha Kitt

If there are people in your life who don’t understand you, rest assured that you are not alone. Even somebody as fabulous and gorgeous as Eartha Kitt had her share of haters. Instead of letting them get you down, use their manure as fertilizer to make you grow stronger.


“What do I wear in bed? Why, Chanel No. 5, of course.” – Marilyn Monroe

Scent is strongly linked to emotions, which means the right perfume can make you feel irresistibly feminine. Scent also triggers memories. Applying a signature scent that makes you feel fabulous can instantly bring back feelings of confidence and femininity. Take a tip from Marilyn Monroe and find your own signature scent.


“You only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough.” – Mae West

Choosing to embrace the woman within is a bold decision. You should be applauded for this! Many people never dare to express their deepest desires or true selves. As Mae West said, you only live once. So live life to the fullest – feminine self and all!


As you as inspired by these classic beauties as I am? If so, I’d love to know who you favorite Old Hollywood actresses are – and which “lessons” you have learned from them.

Please share in the comments below!

7 Simple Ways to Improve Your Appearance (MTF Transgender / Crossdressing Tips)

Do you think looking your best as a woman means you need a head-to-toe makeover – or even feminizing surgery?

It doesn’t!

Looking beautiful often comes down to a few simple changes.

Of course, the basics are important. Nice hair and makeup, flattering clothes, and a reasonably fit body are a great starting point.

But beyond that, it’s the details that make or break your feminine image.

Want to look better right now?

Here are 7 simple ways to improve your appearance:


One of the easiest ways to improve your appearance is to wear lipstick. A Manchester University study proved that women are perceived as more attractive when they wear lipstick – regardless of the rest of their appearance.

The secret is to wear the right shade of lipstick. Here are two quick tips for selecting your best shade:

  • Use your eyes as a guide. For the most flattering look, your lips should be the same intensity as the iris of your eye. (The iris is the colored part of your eye.) For example, if you have light blue eyes, wear a light shade of lipstick. If you have dark brown eyes, a deeper shade will be most flattering.
  • Do the fingertip test. To easily test lipstick shades, put different colors on your fingertips and hold them against your mouth to see which looks best.


Eye Makeup

Your eyebrows literally create the frame for your face. For better or for worse, they have the power to transform your entire look.

The good news is that there’s a lot you can do to shape and feminize your eyebrows – even if you can’t pluck. Check out this eyebrow tutorial for more info.



Women often judge each other based on their handbags. After all, why do women in certain circles pay thousands of dollars for the latest “it” bag?

I’m not saying you need to buy a Gucci purse, but investing in a quality handbag will add polish and style to your appearance – while giving you fashionista status among other women.



The truth is, physical attractiveness often comes down to good grooming. One of the keys to good grooming – and a feminine appearance – is to get rid of excess body hair.

You already know that your beard, chest hair, and hairy legs have to go. But don’t forget about the less obvious spots, including your:

  • Nose
  • Ears
  • Knuckles
  • Toes



The right shapewear can have a dramatic effect on your silhouette. It smooths out excess flesh and helps to feminize your proportions.

The best shapewear for you depends on your outfit and how much shaping you need. Consider investing in the following garments:

  • Control top pantyhose. Perfect for smoothing out your trouble spots, they also add polish and definition to the legs.
  • Waist cincher. Use this when you need extra shaping in the middle and want to carve out an hourglass shape.
  • Shaping camisole. Wear one under your everyday clothes to smooth your belly and love handles.

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Control top pantyhose Waist cincher Shaping camisole


Yellow teeth dull your appearance. Don’t underestimate the impact of pretty white teeth. A white smile brightens up your entire face!

I suggest using a whitening toothpaste daily and doing a whitening treatment every six months. There are some great at-home options, including:

  • Crest 3D Whitestrips
  • Dr. Song Home Professional Teeth Whitening Kit
  • Rembrandt Intense Stain Dissolving Strips



They don’t call it beauty rest for nothing. A lack of sleep shows up on your face – no matter how pretty and feminine you look.

Didn’t get enough sleep last night? Try this free guided mediation and take a 20 minute beauty nap!


The bottom line is that there are a LOT of ways to improve your appearance without having to invest in a new wardrobe, hire a transformation service, or go under the knife.

Little changes can have a big impact on your feminine image!

These 7 tips are a great place to start, but now I’d like to hear from YOU …

What are YOUR best beauty tips? Please share them with us in the comments below.


How to Feminize Broad Shoulders (MTF Transgender / Crossdressing Tips)

I’m often asked how to minimize the look of broad shoulders. Fortunately, there’s lots you can do to downplay your shoulders and feminize your body proportions.

But first things first… Don’t feel bad about the size of your shoulders!

Many cisgender (genetic) women have broad shoulders – including some of the most beautiful models and celebrities in the world.

Instead, try these 10 tips and techniques to minimize your shoulders while creating an elegant and feminine look.

1. Find a flattering neckline

As a general rule, you should avoid square or horizontal necklines. Instead, opt for necklines with rounded or vertical lines to help soften and slim your shoulders. For example:

Neckline DOs

  • V-neck
  • Scoop neck
  • Halter tops
  • Thick shoulder straps

Neckline DON’Ts

  • Bateau neck
  • Square neck
  • Strapless or sleeveless tops
  • Spaghetti straps

2. Wear the right size breast forms

Your breast forms should be large enough to balance out your shoulders. However, they shouldn’t be so big that they add excessive bulk to your upper body. Here are some guidelines for choosing a cup size:

  • If you have a small frame – choose a B or C cup.
  • If you have a medium frame – choose a C or D cup.
  • If you have a large frame – choose a D cup or larger.

3. Wear darker colors on top

Dark colors have a slimming effect, so an easy way to balance your proportions is to wear dark colors on top and light colors on the bottom.

4. Choose your sleeves wisely

Sleeves can have a big impact (good or bad) on the appearance of your shoulders. Here are some suggestions:

  • Avoid sleeves that cut horizontally across your biceps.
  • Avoid puffy or ruffled sleeves.
  • Look for sleeves with a slimming diagonal cut.
  • 3/4 length sleeves are universally flattering.

5. Avoid shoulder pads

This tip is obvious. Shoulder pads are the last thing you need, so don’t be afraid to cut them out of your tops and jackets.

6. Distract with a printed bottom

Drawing people’s eyes away from your shoulders is a great distraction technique. Bring attention to your lower body with a printed or embellished bottom.

7. Wear skirts that flare out

Skirts that flare out at the bottom help balance the width of your shoulders, creating a more feminine silhouette. Look for gathered, flared, pleated, and/or a-line skirts. Avoid strait skirts and fitted pants.

8. Choose the right jacket

When it comes to jackets, you should avoid broad collars and double breasted styles. Instead, opt for single breasted jackets with a narrow collar and lapels.

9. Know your best necklace length

Long necklaces create vertical lines that help slim the upper body. Avoid short, chunky necklaces and chokers.

10. Find a flattering hairstyle

Yes, even the right hairstyle helps. Here are some guidelines:

  • Hair that falls above or below your shoulders is most flattering.
  • Avoid hairstyles that fall at exactly shoulder length.
  • Straight hair emphasizes the angles of your body and can make the shoulders look wider.
  • Full, wavy hair helps soften the shoulders and balances broader body proportions.

In conclusion

Never forget that you can look beautiful and feminine at any size or shape. The secret is to distract from so-called flaws while playing up your assets.

Do you have broad shoulders? If so, what are your favorite tips for looking your best when getting dressed?

Please share in the comments below!