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Anyone who’s been paying attention to transgender issues this year shouldn’t be surprised that a lot of people are upset about the trailer for “Zoolander 2.” The movie doesn’t open until next year, but already an online petition asking people to boycott the film is gaining steam, mainly because the short clip features Benedict Cumberbatch‘s mocking portrayal of a “non-binary” model and Owen Wilson‘s tasteless question about whether Cumberbatch has “a hot dog or a bun.” I get it, it’s a comedy, and comedies shouldn’t have to be politically correct. But that doesn’t mean they should get away with being crude or stupid, either. The question is whether these over-the-top portrayals and obvious jokes are actually funny, or if they’re just more proof that we have a long way to go when it comes to our understanding and acceptance of transgender and non-binary individuals. Surely this was a banner year in terms of transgender visibility. Not only was Caitlyn Jenner such a huge story, but with “Transparent” and “Orange is the New Black,” among other shows, we have, according to several pundits, reached a Transgender “tipping point.” Yet, increased visibility doesn’t always go hand in hand with increased tolerance or understanding. The legal landscape for transgender individuals in the U.S. is still pretty dismal. Just a few weeks ago the citizens of Houston repealed an ordinance protecting eleven classes of citizens because of a spurious attack on transgender individuals as bathroom predators. Never mind that the same ordinance exists in hundreds of other cities, and not a single case of a transgender bathroom predator exists. The Trans community seems to be entering a phase of “visibility” that mirrors the phase that gays experienced in the 1980′s and ’90′s, when gay men were either relegated to swishy best friend roles — think Nathan Lane in “The Prince of Tides” — or portrayed as suffering martyrs by straight actors seeking Oscars. Tom Hanks in “Philadelphia,” anyone? Consider the evidence: Jared Leto may have won an Oscar for “Dallas Buyers Club,” but his jokes about cross-dressing and his neglect to mention Trans people in his acceptance speech, left many in the community fuming. And now, with Eddie Redmayne appearing in “The Danish Girl,” which opens later this year, many activists are wondering why all high profile transgender roles in Hollywood have to be given to straight white males. The issue goes well beyond that. Fox television likely expected to get a pat on the back for casting Laverne Cox as Frank-N-Furter in its upcoming remake of “The Rocky Horror Picture Show,” but quite a few people have expressed their uneasiness about this decision. Don’t get me wrong, Cox is a terrific actress, and I’m sure she’ll have a fresh take on the part. But is this progress? If transgender actors and actresses are only allowed to play “freaky” or outrageous roles, or even only transgender roles, I’m not sure we’re making real advances. Had Fox cast Laverne Cox as Janet instead, that would have been remarkable. When transgender actors and actresses get to play roles in the gender they identify with, and no one questions it, then we will know that true progress has been made. It’s only fair to expect that a community which has been ostracized for so long, and has silently endured so much discrimination and mockery, to demand more than just mere visibility. Perhaps instead of seeing transgender men and women as the easy butt of jokes or a means towards Oscar glory, the Hollywood community might want to consider allowing fuller, more realistic portrayals of transgender lives onscreen, played by trans actors themselves. It is when we see trans people being themselves—on film, in television, in real life—that we are far more likely to relate to them, and accept them for who they are. Eric Sasson writes “Ctrl-Alt,” Speakeasy’s column on alternative culture. He is the author of Margins of Tolerance and the forthcoming novel “Admissions.” You can follow him on Twitter @idazlei or visit his website here.
Crossdresser needs help sorting out feelings Posted Mar. 24, 2015 at 6:00 AM DEAR ANNIE: I’m a 24-year-old male who has been crossdressing since the age of 8. It started with collecting my own bras and panties, and now I have an entire wardrobe of women’s clothing. Because I currently live on my own, I change out of my male clothes into my female ones as soon as I come home from work. I’ve also had very serious thoughts and dreams about being a woman. This is confusing to me, and I want to know whether there is someone I can talk to about these feelings. I’m way too scared to come out to family or friends because of what they would think. — LOST IN OTTAWA DEAR OTTAWA: Crossdressing is not as uncommon as you might think, and there are many reasons. Some people crossdress to disguise themselves, be more comfortable, act a part or because it is attractive to a partner (e.g., women who wear a man’s dress shirt to bed). That type of crossdressing is fairly common and socially acceptable. For others, there is a sexual component or a release of tension, along with a compulsion to wear clothing of the opposite gender. This type of crossdressing can be more difficult for family members or partners to accept. You can find support and information through The Society for the Second Self (tri-ess.org) and the International Foundation for Gender Education (ifge.org). DEAR ANNIE: I read the letter from “At a Loss for Words,” the daughter who is constantly hurt by her mother’s lack of involvement with her children. She could work on changing her own behavior toward the situation. She has taught her mother how to treat her by always being loving and kind in spite of Mom’s narcissistic attitude. Perhaps she should take a different approach and just invite Mom to her children’s events with only brief notice and no expectation that Mom will show up. The more distance she puts between herself and her mother the more Mom will want to be involved, because she will wonder why things changed. Also, perhaps she could put a positive spin on things by relishing the fact that her mother is not a busybody who is overly involved in her life. (This happens much more often than the reverse.) I bet as Mom ages, she will try harder and harder to get involved with her grandchildren’s lives, but by that time, it will be too late. Sadly, it will take time for Mom to figure that out. When the board meetings and the fancy car appointments are over, Mom will be a bitter old woman. — BETTER APPROACH DEAR BETTER: You could be right. Sometimes withholding one’s attentions makes you more desirable, although it would take a major behavioral adjustment for the daughter to behave in an indifferent and uncaring way. But Mom may never quite care enough about missing out on one set of grandchildren. She has another set whom she favors, which is also part of the problem. Annie’s Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please email your questions to [email protected] , or write to: Annie’s Mailbox, c/o Creators Syndicate, 737 3rd St., Hermosa Beach, CA 90254.
My fight to live as the woman I knew I was from the age of three Photo Neil Cross Stef Holmes, who transition from male to female later in life In the days before the Internet and television highlighted transgender issues, those who believed they were born the wrong gender didn’t even know there was a name for how they felt. Today, as part of our series Trapped In The Wrong Body, AASMA DAY talks to Stef Holmes who became a woman almost 60 years after being bought her first pair of high heels as a boy. “PEOPLE of my generation didn’t know there was a name for what they were feeling. Photo Neil Cross Stef Holmes, who transition from male to female later in life “It is only with the advent of the internet and greater information through the media and television that we have discovered what we are and who we are and that’s why we’re transitioning later in life.” Steph Holmes sums up her tale and the plight of thousands of transgender people who transitioned later in life after decades of hiding their true selves and trying to conform to society’s expectations. For Steph, being able to live as the woman she always knew she was has been a hard fought battle with many challenges along the way. Thanks to an understanding mother who recognised Steph’s true feelings – although she never openly spoke of it – life was far simpler for Steph as a youngster. Photo Neil Cross Stef Holmes, who transition from male to female later in life Steph, now 63, who lives in Darwen and runs a support group in Preston, explains: “In my head, I was female from a very young age but didn’t know this. “There were no TV programmes, internet or Youtube to give information. “My mum didn’t voice that she thought I was trans but obviously accepted I was different from a very early age and was wonderful. “Even though it was the 1950s, she was very open and accepting. Photo Neil Cross Stef Holmes, who transition from male to female later in life “When I was three, I told my mum I really liked these black wedge high heels and she didn’t bat an eyelid and bought them for me for Christmas. “At the age of five, I saw a really nice skirt and asked her if I could have it. She counted her pennies and said okay. She was amazing. “From the age of around two, I wandered round in skirts and dresses. But I thought that was ordinary and normal because she made me feel that way.” Steph still has the photograph of herself at three clutching her treasured heels – as well as a photo of herself at 10 dressed in girl’s clothes walking along the Douglas front in the Isle of Man with her mother. Photo Neil Cross Stef Holmes, who transition from male to female later in life Revealing her wicked sense of humour, Steph laughingly says: “The funniest thing about that photograph is that I’m carrying a transistor radio – which they used to call ‘trannies’!” “I’d go out with my mum in dresses in skirts and dresses. When I was younger, I went to school in trousers and came home and changed into a dress. “My dad never really noticed the skirts and dresses. “I didn’t get on well with him until I left home and then for the rest of his life, we got on like a house on fire.” At primary school, Steph remembers feeling confused and distracted. She recalls: “I found myself drawn to girls rather than boys. “My natural instinct was to behave like the girls. In those days, boys were boys and girls were girls – far more so than today. Steph Holmes at the age of three when she was bought her first pair of high heels by her mum. Steph when she was a boy wearing the heels “It was only just post war, so boys were at a premium. “Instead of playing football, I preferred needlework and embroidery. In the playground, I the girls were happy to let me play with them. “I couldn’t place myself in any box. All the people around me, I just didn’t fit what they were.” At the age of 11, Steph won a scholarship to Queen Elizabeth Grammar School in Blackburn – an all-boys school. It was then it really hit home with Steph that she was completely different to the other boys. She remembers: “I felt totally out of place. “My birth certificate stated I was a boy, but when I went to this school full of boys, I didn’t know what to do. “I had to look at the other boys for clues and cues as to how to behave. I felt alien. “At high school, I just hid away and kept my head down. I poured my whole life into music and played the organ and sang in a choir at Blackburn Cathedral.” In a last ditch attempt to be a ‘macho male’, Steph joined the Army but describes it as a disaster. She explains: “Everything I disliked about boys and being a boy was embodied in the Army. “The macho drinking games, the male bonding, the roughhousing – I hated it all. “I thought to myself I’d sooner be at home flower-arranging. “I lasted four months in the Army. The first eight weeks were basic training which was so instense, you didn’t have time to think. “Then I handed my notice in and waited to leave. “The Army was a major turning point. I knew I’d given being a macho male my last shot.” After leaving the Army, Steph wore androgynous clothes and at 18, began wearing eye shadow, mascara and lipstick. She recalls: “Fortunately, it was the 1970s and there were a lot of males wearing make-up so no one thought it was unusual.” Steph began dating and around the age of 25, her girlfriend at the time decided to dress Steph up in her clothes as a laugh. Steph says: “My girlfriend had a real job getting her clothes back! “They were just ordinary girl’s clothes but I felt this tremendous sense of relief and felt right dressed in them. “I felt an overwhelming sense of coming home and finding my place in society.” At that time Steph had heard of transvestites – men who crossdress – so thought this was what she must be. She began wearing women’s clothes in secret, but instead of making her feel better, she felt worse. Steph explains: “I was living the life of a transvestite even though I wasn’t; I was a transexual. “The cross dressing wasn’t fulfilling. It felt like a stopgap. “I wanted to do it all the time rather than just part-time. “I wasn’t addressing the real issue which was that I felt female.” Steph felt disgusted by her male body and couldn’t bear to see herself naked. She says: “Dressing as a woman but still physically being a man left me very depressed and disgusted. I had a complete feeling of dysphoria. “I went through some real dark and nasty times.” Steph was 45 when she met her wife who she was married to for 18 years. Steph told her all about dressing in women’s clothes as soon as they met and she was very accepting – until Steph fully transitioned as a woman. Steph found out about transexualism online by accident 12 years ago – four years before leaving the marital home. Steph recalls: “I read it and thought: ‘That’s me!’ Suddenly my whole life fell into place. There was a name for what I was. It was an incredible moment.” Steph soon realised she couldn’t carry on living a lie. Steph explains: “Transexualism is such that at some point, you are going to have to transition – it is transition or suicide as you can’t live a lie forever. “I managed to live a lie for longer than most as I kept myself so active and busy, I didn’t have time to think. “I was a scuba diver, raced motorcycles, went caving and was a skydiver and rally driver as well as being actively involved with a number of organisations. “But I felt I was living a lie and told my wife I wanted to be a woman. “Although she had been accepting about me dressing in women’s clothes, I don’t think she expected this. I think she thought I’d get better. She told me she felt betrayed. “When I got my gender certificate, the same sex marriage laws hadn’t happened so when my birth certificate changed, our marriage was suddenly against the law. We had the marriage annulled.” After leaving the marital home, Steph transitioned to living and dressing as a woman. She realised there were basically three types of transexuals: pre-op, post-op and non-op. Steph says: “Some people don’t feel the need for the operation or are unable to have it for medical reasons. “Some find taking hormones is enough of a change to make them happy. “In any case, you are legally a woman from the moment you describe yourself as such, not because of any operation. “But for me, surgery was the ultimate goal. “I became very frustrated and depressed and often cried myself to sleep at night.” Steph eventually went to the doctors and was referred to Leeds Gender Identity Service and began assessment and counselling. Steph, who was already self-medicating with hormones bought over the internet, was referred for surgery and last year she underwent the six-hour operation to become the woman she always knew she was. Steph, who is in a steady relationship and engaged, says: “My fiancee tells me as I was wheeled out of surgery, I was cheering. “The best moment was a few days after the op. I caught sight of myself in a mirror and burst into tears and couldn’t stop crying. “But they were tears of joy as I felt complete.” Steph now runs Chrysalis Transexual Support Groups in Preston, Blackburn and Blackpool and has many voluntary roles involving trans support. Steph says: “Many transexuals, once they pass as the gender they want to be, don’t want to tell people. “I can understand that. But unless we talk to people, they are never going to know what we’re about. “I go out with my head held high proud to be a transexual. “Yes, I get verbally abused occasionally. Yes, I get things thrown at me. “I have had people try to beat me up 17 times to date, but not for the last three years. “I wish I had a choice. I’d choose anything over this. But I haven’t of course.” Steph says with increased awareness and understanding, people are now transitioning earlier in life. “With younger transition, the puberty blockers are very good. I’ve never seen a transgender person who transitioned early who isn’t drop dead gorgeous. The younger people start the hormones, the more effective it is. “When you start hormones later in life like myself and many of my friends, it is not as effective. I often joke I’m mutton dressed as lizard! “But I’ve always been a woman. My physical brain is completely female and my entire being is female encased in a body that’s changed with medication and some bits I was glad to see reassigned. “I am now what my mum recognised at an early age. I just wish she was around to see me like this, but she passed away a few years ago.” Stef Holmes at the age of 10 dressed in girl’s clothes and walking with her mother along the front of Douglas in the Isle of Man Steph Holmes recovering in hospital after finally becoming a fully fledged woman