9 Ways to Highlight Your Assets (MTF Transgender / Crossdressing Tips)

Highlighting your assets is the secret to being a super hot crossdresser or transgender woman. It’s impossible for people to notice your “flaws” if they’re too busy looking at something else – like your sexy legs, breasts, or behind. But it’s NOT about wearing the tightest, shortest thing you can find. It’s about attracting attention in a classy and tasteful way. Here are 9 ways to show off your best assets:
If your LEGS are your best asset …

Choose your best skirt length

legs-skirt The most elegant and flattering skirt length is generally 1-2 inches above or below the knee. (Notice I did NOT say crotch length!) Here’s a simple test for finding the best skirt length for your body:
  • Stand in front of a mirror wearing the shoes you normally wear with skirts or dresses.
  • Hold up a piece of fabric and raise and lower the hemline of the fabric in front of your legs.
  • Notice which length make your legs look best.

Wear pantyhose

legs-pantyhose Although pantyhose isn’t as popular as it used to be, hosiery adds polish and definition to the legs. It’s also a great way to cover up imperfections. The secret is to wear the sheerest pantyhose you can find for a sexy, modern look.

Try D’orsay pumps

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D’Orsay pump with a high heel D’Orsay pump with a low heel
The D’Orsay is a shoe style where the sides are cut away to reveal the arch of the foot. This is an elegant shoe style that’s perfect for showing off beautiful legs. While high heels give your legs maximum definition, the D’Orsay is also flattering in flats and low pumps.
If your BREASTS are your best asset …

Go for deep “v” necklines

breasts-vneck The easiest way to show off beautiful breasts is to wear a low cut top – and v-necks are especially flattering. But how low is too low? A good rule of thumb is to show off 20%-40% of your bust. This gives you sex appeal, while keeping it classy.

Look for tops that frame your breasts

breasts-frametop2 Another flattering option is to wear tops that frame your breasts. Think halter tops or tops that have shirring or trimming at the bustline. The more defined the bust area, the more “the girls” will stand out.

Apply a bit of shimmer powder

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Sephora MicroSmooth Baked Luminizer Stila All Over Shimmer Duo
A final way to make your bust pop is to apply a bit of shimmer powder to the visible part of the breasts. This highlights the breasts, similar to the way eyeshadow highlights the eyes. Just be sure you aren’t using anything too glittery or shiny. A shimmer powder like Sephora MicroSmooth Baked Luminizer or Stila All Over Shimmer Duo will give you a subtle glow – not make you look like a disco ball.
If your BUTT is your best asset …

Wear skirts or dresses with ruching in the back

butt-ruching Ruching (i.e. gathering along the seam line) adds volume to your curves and highlights your assets. It’s one of the easiest ways to make a great butt look even better.

Look for bottoms with a sweet heart or “v” shaped back yoke

butt-yoke A yoke is a piece of fabric located below the waistband of a skirt or pants. The shape of the yoke has a major effect on the appearance of your butt. Sweet heart and “v” shaped yokes are most flattering. Stay away from straight yokes (they make your waist look larger) and wide yokes (they make it look like your pants are falling down).

Try butt-enhancing shapewear

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Foxy Fanny Silicone Padded Brief Caboost! Padded Panties The Tush Cush
There are tons of butt-enhancing undergarments on the market now – ranging from butt-lifting shapewear to heavy-duty padded panties. Here are 3 top-reviewed booty enhancers: Even if you are already blessed with a beautiful behind, the right shapewear can give you added oomph under your clothes. Think of it like a push-up bra for your behind. So girlfriend, which body part if YOUR best asset? Your legs, breasts, butt … or maybe something else? Please take my poll and leave me your comments below! Better yet, why not upload a photo and show us?    

7 Tips for Feminizing Your Body Movements


The way you move is a huge part of your feminine image.

But what if you feel you have all the grace of a truck driver?

The good news is that there are some simple techniques for feminizing your body movements.

In a previous article, I explained how to walk like a woman. Now let’s talk about how to make your gestures and deportment more graceful and feminine.

Here are my top 7 tips for feminizing your body movements:

1. Slow down


It’s common to speed up your movements when you feel nervous or self-conscious. This can make you appear jerky and clumsy.

To look more poised, avoid rushed movements. Every move you make should be deliberate and precise. Take your time as you sit down, stand up, gesture, and reach for things.

2. Keep your knees together and your elbows in


I know you’ve probably been told this from Day 1, but it’s easy to let old habits slip in – especially if you spend most of your time in “guy mode.” That’s why you need to be conscious about keeping your knees together and your elbows in.

Why elbows in? Because it’s easy to be clumsy when your limbs are spread out all over the place. Keeping your elbows close to your body will instantly make your gestures more graceful.

3. Stretch out


It’s impossible to move gracefully if you have a tense and tight body. That’s one reason why dancers spend so much time stretching.

You too should make stretching part of your normal routine – particularly before you present yourself as a woman. Here’s a 10 minute full-body stretching routine you can try:


4. Don’t fidget


Fidgeting makes you look awkward and insecure, so avoid nervous movements like:

  • Twirling your hair
  • Biting your nails
  • Shaking your leg
  • Tapping your fingers
  • Compulsively checking your phone

Instead, practice the art of graceful stillness! You will look confident and in control of yourself.

5. Study graceful women


There’s a lot to be learned from studying poised, elegant women. Pay attention to the way they move and carry themselves in public.

See the video below for a fabulous example of the ever-graceful Marilyn Monroe. Notice how elegantly she sits and stands, how deliberate her gestures are, and how she never fails to keep her knees together.


6. Take dance classes


If you’re really serious about becoming a graceful, elegant woman, then I highly recommend taking dance classes. The grace and coordination you’ll learn through dancing will carry over into your day-to-day life.

Any type of dance class is helpful, be it belly dance, salsa, or ballet. If you’re shy about showing up for instruction en femme, take salsa classes in “male mode.” You’ll also get some awesome hip movement training!

7. Practice


Finally, remember that being graceful takes practice. I recommend practicing your movements and gestures in front of a mirror. Or, better yet, record a video of yourself so you can evaluate your movements objectively.

Here are some specific movements to practice:

  • Sitting down
  • Standing up
  • Gesturing as you speak
  • Greeting other people with a hand shake or air kiss
  • Table manners
  • Getting into and out of a car

What do your movements say about you?

You might not be able to change your height or the overall shape of your body, but the good news is that you have control over your body movements.

Use these 7 tips to become a more graceful, elegant woman!

Now I’d love to hear from YOU on this topic.

Do you struggle with your body movements or are you naturally graceful? Do you have any other feminine movement tips you can share with us?

Please leave your comments below!  

15 Fabulous Quotes to Inspire Your Male to Female Transformation


  1. we are not what other people say we are. we are who we know ourselves to be. – laverne cox2. everything you’ve ever wanted is on the other side of the fear. – george addair


  1. people will stare. make it worth their while. – harry winston


  1. if you are always trying to be normal, you will never know how amazing you can be. – maya angelou


  1. if you obey all the rules, you miss all the fun. – katherine hepburn


  1. i would rather die of passion than of boredom. – vincent van gogh


  1. don’t judge each day by the harvest you reap, but by the seeds that you plant. – ayn rand


  1. nothing will work unless you do. – maya angelou


  1. in order to be irreplaceable, one must always be different. – coco chanel


  1. beauty begins the moment you decide to be yourself. – coco chanel


  1. do what you feel in your heart, for you’ll be criticized anyway. – eleanor roosevelt


  1. always remember you are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think. – christopher robin


  1. a girl should be two things: classy and fabulous. – coco chanel


  1. why fit in when you were born to stand out? – dr. suess


  1. a year from now you will wish you had started today. – karen lamb


Do you have a favorite quote or saying that’s inspired your feminine self? If so, I’d love to hear it!Please share in the comments below!

What are Your Femme Resolutions for 2018? (Male to Female Transformation Tips)


I hope 2018 is off to a wonderful start for you!

No matter what 2017 was like for you, the beauty of the New Year is that it’s a chance to start fresh.

Do you have any goals or resolutions for your feminine self for 2018?

If so, I’d love to hear them!

Please take my poll and share your femme resolutions with us below. (Note: You can select more than one answer in the poll.)

Wishing you a fabulous 2018!

Should You Give Up Your Goal of Passing as a Woman? (For Crossdressers and Transgender Women)


“Passing as a woman” is the Holy Grail for many crossdressers and transgender women.

But it is really a goal worth pursuing?

If you’ve been afraid to show your feminine side for fear of not “passing,” it might be time to rethink your priorities.

I believe everybody has the potential to pass, but let’s face it… it’s not always easy!

It could take years to master all the subtleties of walking, talking, and presenting yourself as a woman. You might even require surgery to be truly passable in all situations.

That means that unless you plan to live as a woman full time, trying to become 100% passable just isn’t practical.

Rather than getting hung up on passing vs. not passing, I suggest you make it your goal to “blend in” instead.

Blending in means you look feminine and harmonious enough not to stand out in a negative way – even if you aren’t 100% passable.

Most people don’t scrutinize everybody around them, so unless there’s something glaringly off about you, you are unlikely to attract a second glance.

Does this mean everybody will think you are a cisgender (genetic) woman? Probably not. But it doesn’t matter.

The happiest crossdressers and transgender women I know don’t care whether they pass or not. They care about being themselves.

Passing is great when it happens, but there’s nothing wrong with being seen as the classy crossdresser or transgender woman that you are!

As long as you choose the right environment and present yourself well, you are likely to be met with acceptance.

Now I’d love to hear from YOU!

Please take my “Passing Poll” and share your thoughts below!