Beginner Crossdressing Tips

We estimate that 30 to 40% of all visits to our retail showroom in Fairfield, NJ are from relative ‘novices’ who have dressed sporadically during their lifetime (possibly from childhood) and come to us because they reach a stage in their life when they want the lifestyle to become a more regular happening. For many this will mean dressing on their own and in private with no wish to go out in public. They may take pictures and share online and interact with other crossdressers or even admirers but for the most part they dress in private and want to keep the lifestyle separate and indeed hidden from their regular ‘male’ life.

For those starting out on this journey of discovery and delight we include some basic tips for the beginning crossdresser with a particular emphasis on easy and inexpensive solutions. We know many clients who can only experience the wonder of dressing up a few times a year so it’s important they know how to put together an outfit quickly since time is often of a premium.

For Volume 1 on this subject we will concentrate on:

  • Basic Shaping Garments
  • Dresses v Skirts and Tops
  • Undergarments and Hosiery
  • Shoes

For beginners to crossdressing it’s important to concentrate on easy and cost-effective purchases at the outset of your femme adventure to ensure you have a pleasurable experience. With that in mind all the recommendations we give are based on experience of what will work for most body-types.

BASIC SHAPING GARMENTS: Most body-types require some shaping to emulate a female shape; it doesn’t matter if you are lean or a fuller body-type you will need one or more of the following items to get you started:

Breast Forms: Breast forms do 3 things for the male shape: first of all they make all ladies clothing fit and look much more attractive. Secondly, they help soften the look of wide male shoulders and thirdly, breast forms just automatically make you look and importantly feel more feminine. Unless you have a thing for large breasts then start with a C or B cup so you are proportional. Also, if you go too large you’ll have issues finding ladies clothes that fit. If you can, buy silicone forms since they are the closest to looking and feeling like the real thing. You can spend hundreds of dollars on these but to begin with look for sale items like the Wider Full Teardrop Breast Forms from GlamourBoutique.com that cost from just $19.95 a pair and can be used with regular bras or even adhesives.

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Corsets/Cinchers/Slimmers/Girdles: Moving on down the body part of creating an ideal female silhouette is to strive for an approximation of an hourglass figure; that is a waist slimmer than the chest and the hips. This gets more difficult for most with age but there are quick solutions. If you only need to smooth the waist area and lose just an inch then a simple rubberized slimmer or girdle will help. If you need to lose 2 to 5″ then you need a steel boned corset. These take more time to fit when dressing but they are the only garment that can radically reduce the waist area to get the female shape you want. You can buy rubberized cinchers from $10 or an Affordable Steel Boned Corset for just $49.95.

Hip Padding and Padded Panties: As a male you will most likely have very little natural female hip action going on and so need to add here. There are some realistic silicone options now available running in the hundreds of dollars but we want simple and cost-effective here so go for either stand-alone foam pads held in place by good quality pantyhose or a good quality pair of padded panties like the Padded Rear and Hip Shaping Girdle which contours nicely for a natural fem-shape and just needs to be pulled on an off. It also costs less than $50 so is very reasonable.

DRESSES VERSUS SKIRTS AND TOPS: You’ve figured out your foundation garments that will give you an approximation of a female hourglass figure shape and now you want a simple outfit or two that you can dress up. As a beginner remember some of the basics wherever you clothes shop. Male bodies have different proportions: wider shoulders, longer torsos, slimmer hips etc. If you are particularly athletic with a triangle shape body then unless you pad up in the hip area you will definitely want to shop for skirts and tops where you can but bigger tops but a smaller skirt to fit your body-type. Many like to dress in skirts and tops because you can mix and match outfits to great effect. On the other hand dresses are simple and sexy if you get the right shape. For most beginners where shaving the body is not an option then dresses like our basic Little Black Dress for Crossdressers is an ideal solution. It’s sexy, stylish, cut with wider shoulders and longer torso and full length sleeves and high neck to mask hair. If you feel brave enough to venture out to shop at consignment stores or even chain stores just make sure to choose garments with some spandex/lycra in so they will stretch in areas like the shoulder – 100% cotton or polyester will not work for most.

UNDERGARMENTS AND HOSIERY: Most novice dressers we meet cannot suddenly start shaving all over the body as friends and family would notice which could lead to awkward questions. Long sleeve, high-neck dresses will take care of the upper body but for legs some good quality Opaque (full cover) Pantyhose, stockings or stay-ups will not only shape the legs but mask all hair and blemishes. The other essential for a beginner would be a Crossdressing Gaff for tucking the ‘boys’ to get a nice flat front on your dress or skirt. If you don’t use a tucking gaff then you can do the same with multiple pairs of control top pantyhose but that can become hot!

SHOES: Just about everyone we meet wants a pair of high heels and many novices will start out aiming for a 4 or even 5″ shoe. We always say that unless you are well practiced then do your feet and back a favor and start out with a 3″ heel shoe that’s easy to walk in like the Divine Ladies Pump. For sizing the easy rule of thumb to remember is you add 2 full sizes to your male shoe size for closed toe styles and add 1.5 full sizes to your male shoe size for open toe styles. If in doubt call us at GlamourBoutique.com and we’ll make sure you get the right size. If you simply can’t help yourself and feel you must have a 4 or 5″ heel then make sure it has a platforms sole which is much easier to walk in. Other good recommendations for novice dressers are pumps with ankle straps for added security, plain T-strap sandals for the same reason or even ankle boots which give great support. Remember, keep it simple and start out conservatively; you can always get bigger heels once you have practiced. Choose a neutral color like Black with your first pair so it will match with your first outfit. If you start dressing more and buy more outfits then you can think about shoes with color later on.

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For beginner crossdressers the number one tip is to buy effective, affordable and simple solutions. If you only dress occasionally then buy good affordable everyday items like the examples above at www.GlamourBoutique.com and take care of them. Store correctly and you will have for many years to come. If not sure where to start then read the articles in our Crossdressing Tips section and follow up with us with any questions to make sure you get the right garments in the right size first time around.

Women are never accused of crossdressing, or why transgender people are good for feminism

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Drag queens are actors!

Ever hear anyone complain about a crossdressing woman?

Me neither.

Women regularly wear “men’s” clothing – jeans, t-shirts, sweatshirts – no one cares.

A woman dressed in a man’s suit wearing men’s dress shoes, shirt and tie would likely be labeled gay or dyke or butch, but she likely would not be accused of crossdressing.

I have never heard of or spoken to a transgender man who has been accused of crossdressing.

I do know a transgender man who was fired when he came out at work as transgender. When his employer thought he was a butch/dyke lesbian, it was no problem.

After a name and gender change revealed that he is transgender – no job.

Still, he was accepted as transgender and not looked at as a crossdresser.

Enter a transgender woman

We often hear transgender women referred to as “men in dresses.” This is especially true when a naysayer brings up the “bathroom issue,” which has, numerous times, been debunked. See page 12 Legislative Gazette.

But even when transgender women are not in segregated women’s spaces, they are very often not acknowledged as women.

Drag queens

Some of the misunderstanding or lack of acceptance of transgender women as women may come from a lack of understanding of what it means to be a drag queen.

Drag queens are performers. They are men who take on female personas in order to entertain audiences. They are not women or transgender women, and they don’t want to be women.

They are actors.

Just as Anthony Hopkins isn’t a cannibal simply because he played the part of one, drag queens are not transgender women simply because they were assigned male at birth and dress as women to entertain.

Another woman in top job or the women’s movement fell short

While traveling recently, I picked up the Delta Sky Magazine. The cover story is about Cathy Engelbert, the first woman to head one of the Big Four U.S. accounting firms.

The article provides these statistics: At last count there were just 25 female CEOs in the Fortune 500 and 51 in the Fortune 1000. I’m not a statistician, but the jump from 25 of 500 to 51 of 1000 does not seem statistically significant.

What is significant to me is that IT’S 2015, and it’s STILL A BIG DEAL when women take top positions.

This tells me the women’s movement has light years to go before we reach anything approaching equality.

The fact that magazine covers celebrate a woman becoming a company leader highlights how far the women’s movement has to go.

The experiences of transgender women and transgender men also highlight where the women’s movement has fallen short.

Easy to forget because we’ve come so very far

Women are allowed to vote, own property, get no fault divorces, and have jobs.

And although women get paid less than men for the same job done the same way for the same number of work hours, women are basically doing pretty darn well compared to where we were before the women’s movement.

Transgender women’s experiences highlight where feminism has stalled

Enter Jon Stewart

The Daily Show’s Jon Stewart pointed out that the media, after welcoming Caitlyn Jenner, immediately began treating Caitlyn like a woman.

Comments such as “so sexy it hurts,” “she is hot” “sexy, boobs” abounded.

“Caitlyn,” said Stewart, “when you were a man, we could talk about your athleticism and business ability,” but now that you’re a woman, we have to talk about your body, and we have to compare you to other women and point out your physical flaws.

Things You Learn As A Straight Guy Who’s A Crossdresser

Look at the kid clothing aisles in any store and it’s pretty clear-cut: There’s blue roug

h and tumble clothes for the boys and pink frilly dresses for the girls. When a male starts wearing the pink and frilly stuff — despite not being gay or transitioning to female — it confuses the ever-loving fuck out of most people.

Hi there. I’m Vera, and I’m a straight crossdresser (“Hi, Vera”). I’m married to a woman, I have a kid, I love Doctor Who, and occasionally wearing dresses is an important part of my life. This seems to raise a huge number of questions in people’s minds, so let’s get right into it:

#7. Tucking Your Junk Is A Delicate Art Form

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Let’s get this out of the way. Any time a male sees another guy wearing, say, Beyonce’s outfit from the “Single Ladies” video, he has one question: “What does he do with his balls?”
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Honestly, the dance is harder to learn.
Well, as a crossdresser, I have to tuck my junk regardless of whether I’m wearing a skirt or pants or whatever, because part of feeling feminine is not feeling my penis bump into things. It’s not simply a matter of cramming it back between your legs, either. The biggest problem isn’t my massive pendulous man sausage (hey, it’s my story and I’ll tell it how I like); it’s those delicate testicles.
You can’t squeeze your balls between your thighs, because ouch. Instead, you’ve got to put them back in where they were before they dropped: That cavity in your lower abdomen that they used to be in is still there, and you can push them right back up. An empty scrotum is much easier to tuck away, and once it’s tucked, your balls won’t drop back down, because you’ve squished your sack between your thighs and there’s no empty space for them to drop down into.
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Side note: I can now stuff a week’s worth of men’s and women’s clothes in an overnight bag.
Now, that means I can’t use basic women’s underwear, because the elastic isn’t strong enough and your tuck will pop loose and hang out like the stem on a pickle. So I use a gaff, which is like a thong, but made with stronger elastic to keep that shit pressed hard against my body and not jiggling free for a breath of fresh air.
So why do I go through all of that? Not for the reasons most people think. First of all …

#6. Sometimes Sex (In Either Sense) Has Nothing To Do With It

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I know I started cross-dressing as early as age three, because there are photos of me in a tutu, though memory of that is fuzzy at best. But it really started right around the cusp of puberty. Sometimes I would be home alone after school while my mother was at work, and I would try things of hers on and look in the mirror. I didn’t have any body hair at that point, and I would imagine that I was looking at a girl. I don’t know when I started actually seeing myself as that girl, but over time, that’s what happened.
Now, when people see a man dressed as a woman, they make one of two assumptions (well, really they make one of three assumptions, but I don’t feel like addressing the “AHHH! It’s the depraved spawn of Satan! Kill it before it corrupts the children!” folks right now): that you’re a trans woman or that it’s some kind of kinky sex thing. There are plenty of crossdressers in both of those categories, but there are plenty more who are like me — I’m perfectly comfortable in my male skin, but also have a distinctly feminine side of myself that I feel the need to express. And that doesn’t compute for most folks.
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“You’re saying humans are individual beings with varying tastes and personalities?”
“Yes.”
“I … don’t follow.”
I don’t spend my time at work antsy and uncomfortable at the fact that I’m dressed as a man. Nor does the thought of putting on pantyhose give me a lady boner (which I suppose in my case would be a garden-variety boner, but whatever). It’s about getting to bring out my feminine side every now and then. Part of where it gets weird, even for the dressers ourselves, is learning to differentiate between something feeling sexy and it being sexual. I can put on all this stuff (and it’s a lot of stuff, we’ll get into that in a moment) and feel incredibly sexy, but it doesn’t get me off. It may seem like a fine line, but really, it’s the same way that any woman can put on a slinky dress and heels and feel powerfully sexy, but that doesn’t mean it gives her a sexual thrill in and of itself. It’s a look, not a fetish.
And yet I still face a metric fuckton of pressure to make it about sex, especially in online communities. In my experience, pretty much every large community of note has a dating site aspect to it somewhere. In this case, men who fetishize crossdressers use such sites to go about finding crossdressers willing to fuck them. Even if I put in my profile that I have no interest in hooking up or that I’m married, I still get inundated. These men — and it’s always men — think that you’re just a submissive, and that if they can show enough dominance, they can strong-arm you into doing what they want.
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“Still no reply … Better send another dick pic to sweeten the deal.”
The disturbing thing is that in a lot of cases, it works — especially with dressers who are starting out or are closeted. What most of us want more than anything is validation of our femininity. Unfortunately, the easiest way to get that, the sort of crack cocaine version of it, is to appeal to men who will sexualize you like some kind of feminized fucktoy. And even that kind of acknowledgement feeds the need for approval on some level, meaning that many crossdressers, even if they’re attracted to women, have stories of agreeing to do something with a man (online or in person) that they wouldn’t have otherwise done.
The validation that you are feminine and you are enticing is a big pull for most of us, and if we’re not getting it from friends, family, or healthy relationships, it’s easy to slip into getting it from wherever you can.

#5. It’s An Incredible Amount Of Work

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It’s true that not all crossdressers go all out. Some will just wear women’s underwear or pantyhose under their suits and go about their days. Others might put on dresses but not do makeup. For folks who are closeted in some fashion, dressing tends to only be a partial thing. This is especially true for those either still living with family or roommates who don’t know, or (more complicatedly) have spouses who don’t know. They’ll put on what they can when they can, but it tends to be a smattering of small items that they can easily hide in a box marked “FREAKY ASS PORN — SERIOUSLY, DON’T OPEN THIS.” As for me, I’m an all or nothing kind of girl. I’ll do the full hair and makeup and clothes or I won’t do anything at all.
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With cheekbones as great as mine, it’d be weird not to accentuate them.
I generally know when I’m going to dress (at a trans-friendly event, burlesque shows, that sort of thing), so I’ll do body hair removal the day before. For most guys, this is virgin territory, but I’m sure any women reading this is thinking “Yeah, I know all about this.” Hate to break it to you ladies, but not like this you don’t. Do you know how much Nair it takes to leave Bigfoot silky smooth? Of course, there’s multiple ways to get rid of the mess, and frequently I will just shave, which in my case means legs and chest and pits (plus tweezers between the eyebrows to eliminate any stragglers that might hint at a unibrow).
I’m fortunate in that I don’t really have to do anything to my arms — I have very minimal, light-colored hair. I also don’t have to do anything to my back. There are crossdressers who are Robin Williams levels of hairy, and I thank my pink twinkling stars that isn’t me. I have tried everything: epilators, creams, even professional waxing a couple of times (which is my favorite, but expensive; also I have to drive two hours to find a waxer who will even touch somebody with dangly sex bits).
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“You people work on body hair commission, right?”
“Yeah.”
“Big mistake. Big. Huge.”
Face-shaving is separate from the body shave, you have to do that pretty much right before you do your makeup to minimize beard shadow. You can forget those fancy light powder makeups that the rich folks use; you need a liquid foundation, and then when you put a powder over that, you have to use a compact concealer. Start dabbling with translucent stuff and that’s when your stubble shows through.
Next, you’ll find out that …

#4. Women’s Clothes Aren’t Made To Fit Dudes

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OK, your unwanted hair is gone, so now you pick your outfit. Undergarments are a bra to hold in the breast forms (i.e. the fake silicone or foam tits we keep in a box marked “TRAUMATIC CHILDHOOD MEMORIES — DON’T GO POKING THROUGH HERE!”) and the aforementioned thong to keep my tuck from escaping. I also have a variety of wigs, so another aspect of putting together an outfit is deciding which hair is going to go with it. So now you can add wig maintenance to your to-do list — the brushing and washing and trying to get it back into the style it was when you bought the stupid thing.
And then there is the confusing labyrinth that is women’s clothing sizes. If you’re a guy shopping for men’s clothes, you know that no matter where you go, no matter what brand, you’re probably the same pants size. Shirts are S, M, L, and XL. With women’s clothes, it’s a crapshoot at best — I wear anything from an eight to a 14, depending on the brand. Oh, and you have to do all of this experimenting at home if you’re not “out” with your crossdressing. Otherwise, you’re risking a coworker seeing you head into the Gap dressing room with an armload of miniskirts. So each misfire means a trip back to the store.
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“One size fits most,” my (poorly concealed) ass.
And we haven’t even mentioned the biggest issue, which is that men are shaped differently — we tend not to have those curvy hips and waists. So already I’m trying to pick clothes based on my size-D breast forms, and then, because women’s clothes are designed on the assumption that you have at least some level of hips, I need a corset. You’ve got to get one with steel boning (and no, that’s not the name of the Iron Giant porn parody); most cheaper corsets use plastic, which will warp and fall out of shape almost immediately. With tops, I stick with mostly sleeveless or short sleeves, because long sleeves end up only going halfway between my elbow and wrist — guys have longer arms.
As for shoes, at least the sizes are consistent … but then you have to learn how to walk in them without falling on your ass. That takes practice, which of course is the one thing the closeted crossdressers with roommates or spouses never get the chance to do. Which brings us to how …

#3. Relationships Can Be Complicated

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This one can almost go without saying, but man it’s a doozy. If you’re going to have a long-term relationship, the inevitable questions come up: “Do I tell her?” “When do I tell her?” “What if she rejects me?” “Could I stop if she asked me to?” Remember, this isn’t just something done as a fashion statement, like if your significant other asked you to throw out your “Free Mustache Rides” baseball cap. With crossdressers, it’s a key part of their identity.
You get double complication points if you start to get a handle on this side of yourself after you’re already in a committed relationship. Rejection, or even the fear of it, leads to a depressing cycle of wardrobe purging for many dressers, when they throw out all their makeup and dresses at the insistence of a spouse, or out of fear they’ll find out. But if you truly have the need to express your feminine side, that doesn’t go away. And then it leads to not only being in the closet, but dressing behind somebody’s back, which is a breach of trust on top of everything else.
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It’s hard to be in the figurative closet when the secret you’re hiding is in your literal one.
I am insanely lucky because my wife has been wonderfully supportive. I know I’m lucky, because there are a million horror stories about dressers coming out to their wives or girlfriends with disastrous results. In many cases, it’s not the dressing itself that throws everything out of whack; it’s the secrets and the sense that the dresser was keeping something from them.
As for me and my wife: We dated in college and at the time I had a dorm room to myself. The room was a disaster, as is typical in that situation, so one day when she was there without me, she made the heroic attempt to try to pick up a bit. She came across a pair of women’s pantyhose, and when I got back she confronted me with them. “Whose are these??”
I paused, and then, figuring I had nothing to lose, said, “Those are mine.”
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It was either the truth, or a fake confession about liquor store robberies.
She only said, “Oh. Well that’s okay then.”
See? Lucky fucker, that’s me. We actually didn’t talk about it directly for a long time — she just kind of got it. It was a while before we sat down and had conversations about it. By then most of it had to do with sort of figuring out how much of my life I wanted this to be. I started asking, “Is this something I want for my life? Do I want to transition?” I suspect most part-time dressers go through this questioning phase, and so that was sort of why we started talking about it more directly. Finding the balance that I now enjoy came out of much soul searching and many conversations. But even then …

#2. You Don’t Really Fit In Anywhere

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The thing about being a straight crossdresser is that, on top of not really fitting into mainstream society, you don’t really fit into the LGBT community either. Gay men tend to get annoyed and believe we don’t know what their struggle is like, bisexuals seem to find it confusing because many assume mixing genders would mean liking both. The trans part of the LGBT equation is where you’d think crossdressers would fit in, but there’s a lot of infighting in that group which is kind of hard to sum up. Let me put it this way: I’m a crossdresser who has no issues putting myself out there on the interwebs or strutting about in public from time to time, but to date, the most hostility I’ve encountered has not been from the homophobic fuckwits you’d expect, but from trans women.
Obviously not all of them are hostile, but I think that many of them have a violent gag reflex at the thought of being associated with someone who is “just” a man in a dress. They’ve obviously been through plenty of shit to get to live as the women they feel they are, and I get not wanting to be belittled by some dude who they see as doing it for fun or attention. And even they tend to make the assumption we talked about earlier — that if you’re not gay or transitioning, then it must be a sexual kink. Online (where everybody feels safe to throw shit) I’ve been told flat out, “You’re not even transgender, so stop acting like a woman,” as if there’s some sort of entrance fee on femininity that I’m trying to skimp out on.
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“Did you even pay dues at the last union meeting?”
I mentioned that I perform in burlesque shows. I haven’t performed in a drag show for years, because they’re bitchy and cliquey and I hate the drama (yes, somehow Rupaul’s Drag Race winds up being an accurate portrayal of reality). So since I wasn’t doing the big hair, ball gown, lip sync to Donna Summer thing, I found myself getting more than a few sideways glances. And those turned into not-very-hushed whispers once word got around that I was straight.
Where I’ve found the most acceptance is with lesbians and drag kings, and I couldn’t really tell you why, but also with the burlesque community, because they’re kind of “all are welcome” by their very nature. But no matter where I go, I have to deal with the fact that …

#1. Pop Culture Has Confused Everyone

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I mentioned that there’s a period of confusion for most dressers, and part of the reason for that is there aren’t really any cultural reference points for this. There’s Eddie Izzard, but he really only does his stand-up specials in dress these days. Now he does a lot of acting work where he’s wearing boys clothes and interviews where he’s sporting a goatee, so even that one purported pillar is kind of a shaky one. Really, the main place where you see crossdressing is in shitty comedies: Big Mama’s HouseSorority BoysWhite Chicks and the like. That’s why I think it throws people off. The pop culture point of reference for a man in a dress who isn’t transitioning is a dumb gag in which a guy is forced to wear a dress by circumstance so it can be played it for laughs (hardy fucking har).
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It’s not too late to change your poor social and Netflix choices.
So I went through years trying to convince myself that I wanted to live as a woman, even though I’d never felt wrong in my male skin. It also took quite a while to come to an understanding that dressing to feel sexy didn’t make dressing sexual. Since my only frame of reference was bad jokes or sexual fetishes or gay men, I thought “Well I must be at least bisexual,” so I spent a lot of time trying to fit a square peg in a round hole before finally being able to separate sexual orientation from gender identity.
Ultimately, I occupy a weird little spot in between so many of the more clearly defined designations for gender, sexuality, etc. The funny thing is, I’ve grown to like it here. In an odd way, being hard to categorize has made me feel a little bit more special. It forces people to have to examine me a little closer if they want to ever understand me. Plus it makes close-minded people’s heads explode like fucking Scanners, and that never gets old.

20 Things Which every Crossdresser must know about Women!

A woman has always been a mystery for both men and women themselves. There are so many things which make us different from men and special in our own peculiar way. However, after all these years of studying and observing women there are thing more or less common for our ‘race’ (or ‘kind’). Here is the list of scientifically proven (and not proven) that will help you (or not) understand women better. Let’s start from physiology and move to habits crossdressers.

1. Women have a faster heartbeat (78 beats per minute )
The rate of heartbeat depends on the size of body in general. As women’s bodies are smaller on average than men’s, their hearts beat faster.

2. Women blink twice more often than men
This is generally explained by the higher levels of hormone Estrogen in women’s bodies.
3. Women are better smellers…
It’s not because the better sense of smell. Women tend to differentiate smells better than men and detect specific smells correctly.
 
4. And better listeners!
The trick is women listen with both sides of brain while men use only left side of brain for listening.
 
5. …but lousy drinkers
Women can drink the same amount of alcohol but will have a higher alcohol level in blood than men do. Thus, we have lower alcohol tolerance, we are prone to become alcohol addicts sooner than men and suffer more from hangovers. In other words, drinking is not women’s cup of tea.
 
6. Women’s life expectancy is higher than it is for men worldwide.
This may be explained by different factors – the rate of hormons (testosterone and estrogen) in organism, women’s slower metabolism, lower death rate in childhood, better ability to adjust to the environment. However, the longer life expectancy doesn’t mean women are healthier than men. It just means we can leave through the conditions that men die from.
7. Women speak about 20,000 words a day while for average man this number is 13,000 times less.
Yes. Women are that chatty. On the other hand, if they have so much topics to discuss – good for them!
 
8. Women cry about 30-64 times a year. Men cry on average 6 to 17 times a year.
Hormones again are the reason. 60 percent more prolactin in women’s bodies – and we are crying rivers while men remain calm and dry.
 
9. Fun fact: an average woman eats about 2-3 kilos of lipstik (per lifetime).
Question: Does it have to be considered when making a diet plan?
 
10. The first computer programmer was a woman Ada Lovelace (1815 -1852 )
Now, who said we are not good with math?
 
11. Both cases of highest IQs recorded (ever) belong to women.
Yup, we are that brainy. No more women’s logic related jokes, please.
 
12. Why do women lack free time? That’s the answer!
According to researches, women spend on average120 hours a year looking in the mirrors, over 4 years of their lives menstruating, and approximately one year of their lives deciding what to wear. That’s a lot of busy time, indeed!
 
13. When woman dresses, she usually puts on a blouse first. Pants come second. For men it is vice versa.
Science can’t explain this fact. That’s just how things work transgender.
 
14. Women prefer chocolate over sex!
Seventy percent of women would have a bar of chocolate instead of having sex. Well, it’s not a secret that men need more sex than women. While men enjoy physical side, women enjoy the emotions they get during intimacy. So, does it mean chocolate gives us more emotional pleasure! That is something for men to think about…
 
15. Only 30% of women can orgasm from intercourse. And the same amount of women have trouble reaching orgasm.
The reasons vary from physiological peculiarities, lack sex education, inexprienced partner or wrong positions. The habit of faking orgasm instead of talking with a partner and solving the problem may also be the reason why women prefer chocolate.
 
16. There is always at least one thing that woman doesn’t like about her body. Usually that’s either weight, or breast size.
Even super models who seem perfect to anyone try to hide some imperfections they notice about their body. Seriously, women are so self-critical.
 
17. High heels create the effect of roundish butt (it sticks out 25 percent more)
However, we all know stilettos are not practical, they seem to have strong advantages.
 
And now, a couple of facts about women which are not scientifically proven but were said by the wise men and so should be taken for granted crossdressing.

18. ‘A woman’s mind is cleaner than a man’s: She changes it more often.’ – Oliver Herford
 
19. ‘Every woman is wrong until she cries, and then she is right – instantly.’ – Sam Slick
 
20. ‘Women are made to be loved, not understood.’ – Oscar Wilde

 

 

Crossdress makeup tips by Carolanne

Depending or you have heavy beardgrow or not  shave your beard and afterwards use an new razor blade and shave the whole beard region. If you  have heavy beardgrow you can try too use an camouflage stick for on the beard shadow. try to buy an camouflage stick color who would camouflage your beard shadow the best. Do not apply it alot and make sure you smear it out real well. After that try using a foundation as close too your own skin color! Take an sponge or big brush and spread it out too apply it onto your whole face , ears and nek area. With and smaller brush you can optionally applyan compact powder who is an little darker then the foundation at skin/hair border in an circle so the effect give’s and rounder face structure. Although its depends from person to person if it is needed! Next depending on if you have full eyebrows , the best things is too begin making the eyebrow hair shorter. On the eye side of your eyebrow you can make your eyebrow hair lighter using an white eye pencil by following you eyebrow line from inside too out ! when your having smal eybrow or light ha

ir eyebrow the eye pencil isn’t needed crossdressing. also optionally you can use eyebrow plastic to sorta stick your eyebrow hairs too you head and with an sponge soft apply the foundation you used for the rest of the face. When you look in the mirror you would see yourself without eyebrow! At first tis a funny look not having eyebrows anymore! With an lightbrown eyebrow pencil or with eyebrow powder your gonna draw another eyebrow. Don’t aspect to master that in one time as  i myself probably fucked it up dozen of times ( sorry for swearing) For the beginning of the eyebrow best is to let it be were the original eyebrow begins. The end although you can decide bij taking any eye pencil and hold it at the side of your nose and point it besides the outside of your eye. Were your pencil points out to if roughly were your eyebrow end will become sexy  transgender


I prefer to draw a thin eyebrow line just above my own eyebrow covered in eyebrow plastic.
 In that way you can make the most consistent line on two sides . Before i discovered this way i always try to draw the eyebrow line’s but most of the time one was a little different from the other. And because i can’t live with bad drawn eyebrow’s i always took it of and applied again till it was how i liked it. In that way i became real handy in doing it. The same goes for applying the make up and the to much factor. I learned overtime that to much always ends up in not manageble anymore and it would wear of fast. But in the beginning i always applied more then needed to cover thing up and now i spend more time on applying it the right way to cover the same with less! (see example crossdressers ) under the white  eyecolor under my eyebrows are my normal eyebrows pasted away with eyebrow plastic and covered with white. If you look at the eyes.jpeg picture im trying to apply less white and make it more natural look ! 

No-Sweat Beauty Tips for Summer Heat (for crossdressers)

As the summer rages on, protect your(transgenger) skin so you don’t have to suffer from the season’s skin problems.   It’s the (hopefully) end of summer and while the monsoon should be here soon, for now the heat continues unabated. Fortunately, your skin needn’t take the brunt of the heat this season. We have for you, some tips that’ll help keep your skin fresh and dewy, even as the mercury continues to stay high.

Top 10 – Crossdressers Skincare tips for the summer

1. Stay hydrated. Your body tends to lose a lot of moisture in the summer, so it’s important to regularly replenish the H2O. Drink a lot of water and liquids and your skin will stay soft and moisturised as well.
2. Sun protection. If you can, try and stay indoors between 11am and 3pm. That’s when the sun’s rays are the strongest and can have an adverse effect on your skin. Also, don’t forget to apply that all-important sunscreen 30 minutes before you step out. If you’ve been out in the sun for a few hours, touch it up again so you’re well protected.
What should you look for when shopping for a sunscreen? RIGHT HERE : Crossdressing.

3. Use a toner. It’s important to keep your pores closed and skin cool by using a toner. Look for a brand that suits you or try rose water. Its natural cooling properties make it an excellent toner for the hot season.
4. Go for a water-based moisturiser. Don’t make the mistake of skipping the moisturising routine altogether as its essential for your skin to remain hydrated. However, if you find your regular moisturiser too oily, go for a water-based one.
5. Ditch those aerated drinks. Most people have the tendency to reach out for an ice cold aerated drink to quench their thirst on a really hot day. However, it’s important to remember that these drinks are full of sugar that is not good for your skin or your figure. Instead drink some water, fresh lime, fresh fruit juices, aam panna (green mango drink) or coconut water to stay hydrated. It’s also best to minimise the intake of diuretics like alcohol and caffeine as they reduce the water from your system.
6. Cleanse your face twice a day. At least! This is important to do even if you’ve been home all day and feel like your skin is clean. Cleansing and moisturising your skin before sleeping is an absolute must.
7. Exfoliate. More than the rest of the year, it’s really important to exfoliate your skin in the summer to remove dead skin and improve blood circulation to the face. Choose from any of the cosmetic scrubs available in the market or make one at home. Try this simple one using 4 to 5 tbsps of gram flour, a pinch of turmeric, 5 – 6 drops of rose water and milk or yoghurt. Mix it into a paste and use it to exfoliate your face. Follow it up with a facemask and moisturiser.
8. Don’t like your tan? Gram flour can also be used as a facemask to get rid of an uneven tan. Mix it with yoghurt and a few drops of lemon and apply and leave it on your face till it’s dry. The citrus properties of the lemon are very effective in removing the tan.
9. Get that warm, summer glow. Papaya is full of natural goodness and you can even use it as a homemade pack. Just mash 2 tbsp of papaya with a tsp of honey and 1 egg white. Leave the mixture on your face for about 15 minutes and enjoy the glow you get afterwards.
10. Cool your skin. Blending half a cucumber and 1 tbsp of yoghurt in the mixer can make another simple and effective homemade face pack. Apply this to your face for 15 minutes and feel completely pampered.
Bonus tip. Eat healthy, exercise and sleep well! The holy trinity of good health and glowing skin holds true for the whole year. So along with all the tips above, don’t forget to eat a balanced diet, work out for at least 45 minutes everyday and get 7 to 8 hours of sleep. all sissy crossdressers Enjoy the summer!

Crossdress Bra Mistakes (and how to fix them)

Can you imagine that 80% of women fail in choosing the right bra?
From buying a bra to matching it with your outfit – this seems a very big problem for most of women. Admit it, it’s almost impossible to find the one that fits, supports and perfectly separates.
If your bra fits incorrectly, it makes you feel extremely uncomfortable. Wearing the wrong size bra will limit what you can wear while a good fitting bra will make your outfit look better.
These essential tips will help you make your bra shopping easier. Also, learn here how to take care of this important piece in your wardrobe.
1. Check the band. This picture will help you to understand if everything is OK with your bra. The band should not ride up your back. It shouldn’t be higher than the underwire and lay horizontal across your back. If it is, try a smaller bra size.
The band should be snug around your rib cage but not too tight. You must realize that it can stretch a bit later, about three inches in its lifetime. So buying a bra with a bigger band size makes no sense.
2. The bra bulge may happen, no matter what you weigh. It often happens on the back or under the arms and it most likely because you’re wearing too tight bra. But switching bra sizes doesn’t always work. What else you can do to avoid that back-fat bulge? Try a wider back and under the arms band, power-net wings and firmer fabric. It will help you distribute your bra’s weight and pull and prevent those “back boobs”.

3. Check the cup size. Be sure that an underwire is not poking into your breasts and a bra center doesn’t sit away from the chest. Check if your breasts don’t spill out from the top or side of your bra. If this all happens – you’re definitely wearing the wrong bra cup size. Size it up.
Wearing a bra that is too big is also a problem. Check if the cups don’t pucker. They should fit smoothly without creating an extra space between

4. Remember: you shouldn’t see the outline of your bra through your clothing. This may look unattractive or even embarrassing. You bra can be too big or the other reason is that you didn’t match it with your outfit. If you’re sure about sizing, try a seamless, non-embroidered bra. It won’t show through and you’ll feel more confident about your look.

5. Don’t forget about matching the correct bra with your outfit! Always make sure it works with a certain neckline. If you decided to wear a backless evening gown, you don’t need to show unsightly bra straps to everyone. Fortunately, nowadays there are bra types that suit plunging necklines or a backless dresses. So you don’t have to go out braless. Use a strapless or silicone adhesive bra beneath a strapless or spaghetti string dresses. For tight fitting tops use a good lifting push up bra. Or buy a convertible bra with adjustable straps. You can wear it with a variety of outfits!

6. Don’t be afraid to use bra not only like lingerie, but also like a part of your outfit. You should be careful here in order not to make your look too sexy or even vulgar. But if you make everything right your look will be seductive and unforgettable.
Remember you shouldn’t save money on a bra. It is an important part of your daily life.
It’s OK to spend much time on finding the most comfortable, good looking and high quality bra. This will help you avoid future regrets!