How to Look Extra Sexy This Summer (MTF Transgender / Crossdressing Tips)

Summer is around the corner (here in the Northern Hemisphere at least) and I couldn’t be more excited!

While warm weather has its beauty challenges, summer a great time to be a girl. There’s nothing like stepping out en femme in a cute sundress or sexy bikini.

Ready to turn a few heads this season?

Here are 7 tips – specifically for crossdressers and transgender women – to help you look extra sexy and feminine this summer.

1. Don a pair of oversized sunglasses

Oversized sunglasses are trendy, sexy, and glamorous. The secret to pulling them off in style is to choose flattering frames:

  • If you have angular features, choose rounded frames to balance out your face.
  • If you have a round face, angular frames are most flattering.

2. Highlight your hair

Nothing says summer like highlights, so add some highlights to your hair or pick up a highlighted wig. By the way, girls of all ethnicities can wear highlights. Auburn or chocolate highlights look fabulous with dark hair.

3. Get a spray tan

Suntans are sexy and make your body look thinner and more toned. But instead of frying in the sun or messing with self tanners, why not indulge in a spray tan from a salon? Spray tans cost $25-$50 and last about a week, so they’re a great thing to do before a special event or girly photo shoot.

4. Change your perfume

Changing your perfume is a great way to get into the mood for summer. Take a break from heavy, musky fragrances and choose something light and fruity for the summer. My current favs are Fresh Sugar Lemon, DKNY Be Delicious Fresh Blossom, and Marc Jacobs Daisy Eau So Fresh.

5. Go totally bare

There is nothing as sexy as smooth silky skin, so why not go totally bare and remove ALL your body hair for the summer? I guarantee you’ll feel very girly! You’ll also feel cooler and smell fresher – another plus for the feminine experience.

6. Try a colorful eyeliner

Colorful eyeliner is a big trend right now and it’s a perfect look for the summer. Try a touch of blue, green, or purple eyeliner on your upper or lower eyelids. (Avoid pink eye liner since it can make your eyes look tired.) Keep the rest of your makeup muted.

7. Invest in a new dress

For my last tip, I am giving you permission to go shopping! A sexy new sundress is a great way to kick off the summer. Look for flowing, gathered styles to create the illusion of curves.

Let’s see your summer look!

Whether or not you plan to step out in public, summer is a great time to indulge your feminine self. Do you have any special plans for the season?

I’d love to see your favorite summer look, so please share your photos below!


Top 7 Lingerie Rules (Male to Female Transformation Tips)

Of all the topics I cover on this blog, lingerie is definitely the most popular. And why not? There’s nothing like indulging your feminine self in a lacy bra or silk nightie.

While half the fun of lingerie is expressing your own personal style, there are certain “rules” worth keeping in mind.

Are you following “the rules?”

Find out by reviewing my top 7 lingerie rules – specifically for crossdressers and transgender women.

Rule #1: Know thy bra size

Most women wear the wrong bra size, so there’s a good chance that you might be too. A bra that doesn’t fit right is uncomfortable and creates unattractive bumps and bulges. No girl needs that!

Your best option is to be professionally fitted for your bra size. (Don’t be afraid to go in for a fitting. Many lingerie shops are transgender-friendly, especially if you call ahead.) I also wrote an entire post on finding your bra size here.

Rule #2: Avoid visible panty lines

A bra strap peeking out of your top can be sexy. Visible panty lines? Not so much. Here are 5 ways to avoid VPL (visible panty lines):

  • Make sure your panties fit right. If they’re too tight, they’ll dig in and create bulges. Too loose and they’ll wrinkle and bunch up.
  • Try seamless underwear for a smoother look. Seamless panties are made without seams or trimmings that can show through clothes.
  • Wear a thong. No visible panty lines there!
  • Go for boyshorts. Boyshorts might not sound girly, but they’re actually really cute and don’t create panty lines.
  • Avoid cotton panties. Cotton undies have a tendency to bunch up.

Rule #3: Coordinate your bra and panties

While the rule about matching your shoes and bag is outdated, your bra and panties should look like a set. Mismatched lingerie looks sloppy and even if nobody sees it but you, why not look your best? The colors don’t have to be an exact match, but they should at least coordinate.

Rule #4: Choose high quality fabrics

Since lingerie is worn next to your body, fabric makes all the difference in the world. High quality fabrics feel great, lay more smoothly, and last longer. Cheap fabrics wear out quickly and can even trap odors. (Eww!) Look for lingerie constructed with quality fabrics like jersey, silk, rayon, and cotton.

Rule #5: Know when to say goodbye

Do you own any ratty panties or stretched out bras? If so, toss them immediately. It’s hard to feel sexy and feminine in worn out lingerie, so get rid of anything that’s lost its luster. Most lingerie items need to be replaced every 18 months or so.

Rule #6: Own more than one bra

To extend your bra’s life span, let your bra rest a day between wearings to keep the elastic from stretching out. If you only own one bra, that means it’s time to shop for another one (or 10!).

Rule #7: Buy lingerie that fits your lifestyle

Do you have a bunch of sexy underthings, yet nothing practical to wear under your clothes? Or maybe you lack certain feminizing shapewear pieces. Lingerie should fit your lifestyle, so take stock. Are you missing anything from these categories?

  • Basics – T-shirt bra, seamless panties, pantyhose, etc.
  • Shapewear – Control cami, girdle, padded panties, pocketed bra for breast forms, etc.
  • Sleepwear – Nightgown, robe, sleep bra, etc.
  • Sexy – Lace bra and panties, body suit, garter, etc.
  • Activewear – Sports bra, moisture wicking panties, etc.
Let’s talk lingerie!

What do you think of these lingerie rules? Do you agree with them? Do you have any lingerie rules of your own?

Please share in the comments below! And for bonus points, don’t forget to upload a photo of your favorite lingerie look.


Out of the Closet: Relationship Tips for Crossdressers and Transgender Women


Note from Lucille: This is a guest post by Leanne, Transformation Maven of Lesada. Relationships are an important (and complex) topic, so I’m excited to bring you Leanne’s perspective. We’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments below!

Dresses, skirts, lingerie and shoes – where do you put all the shoes?! It doesn’t take long for a closet to fill up. The more cluttered it gets, the harder it is to tell what’s there and what fits beautifully on you.

The same can be said for the metaphorical closet. The longer you keep yourself hidden, the harder it is to see who you really are. That is a great loss to yourself and to your partner. Hiding who you are takes a lot of energy that is better spent on keeping the sparkle in your relationship and enriching your experiences in life. Hiding who you are also causes a lot of stress and unnecessary strain on you and your relationships.

If you are concerned that your secret life will hurt someone you care about, or that they will think less of you, consider instead that they are missing the opportunity of knowing the truly beautiful person you are. You are actually robbing them of the opportunity to love you completely.

The exciting thing about being in love is wanting to know everything you can about the person who makes your heart sing. You want to know their private intimacies, how they think, what turns them on, their history and story that made them who they are. You want to know these things because you love them and want to give them the best. Why would they not want the same of you?

I encourage you to love yourself first. Loving who you are, without shame, loving the whole you, frees your spirit so you can grow to be all that you are meant to be. What a gift to give yourself! What a gift to give your partner!

There are far too many crossdressers and transgender women in the closet. I have heard enough stories about secrets, but I have also heard many stories of success. Secrets hurt and indicate shame. Being yourself is not shameful. It’s time to come out of the closet, clear the clutter and make room for more shoes!

Here are some tips from couples on how to incorporate your feminine side into a successful, loving relationship:

  • Great journeys begin with a single step. If you have a huge fantasy of being a woman, full time with your wife, but you haven’t told her yet, start small! Do little things to gradually work up to your goal. Start by painting each other’s toe nails for example. Baby steps, baby steps.
  • Tell her you love her. Assure her that you love her as well as yourself, and that you will be a better partner to her if you don’t have secrets. Let her know that she is still the love of your life, even if you are seeking new friendships.
  • Compromise. Don’t push your partner to go beyond what she is willing to do. This may take a lot of getting used to on her part, especially if you’ve been the same in the relationship for many years.
  • Make it fun! People continue to do things when they are having fun, so be playful and loving while she discovers this new side of you. Maybe she could dress up and be someone different as well while you are en femme. Private secrets between just you too can be very fun!
  • Find friends. Join groups online, attend events or conferences that are non-sexual in nature so she can be assured that you aren’t deviating from your relationship with her.
  • Encourage her to seek out friends who are also in crossdressing/transgender relationships. Crossing Paths is a group just for her.
  • Seek a coach or mediator to guide you through this new phase of your relationship

Sizes: Good News and Bad News

The Bad On Friday, I mentioned buying a new Rago bra and girdle. The garments arrived Friday afternoon and I tried them on to see how they fit. I ordered the bra and girdle sizes that I usually wear, so I was very disappointed that both items were too small. I put the girdle on OK and it hugged me like a glove, but it was not long enough. Although it is billed as "high waisted," it barely reached my waistline and was obviously not designed for women who are 5 feet 14 inches tall. I returned it for a refund. The bra was very tight. The cups were a perfect fit for my breasts, but the band was too small by about an inch and a half, so I sent it back and ordered the next larger band size. If you purchase this bra, I advise you to order it one band size larger than the size you think you need. The Good
I joined JustFab about four years ago. On the first day of each month, they email me suggestions of new footwear that match my style requirements. They have a nice selection of shoes and boots at reasonable prices (about $40 a pair), but size 11 was the largest size they offered. Sometimes 11 fits me, so early on, I ordered some heels from JustFab, but I had to return them because they were too small. Even though I stopped buying footwear from JustFab, they kept emailing me new suggestions every month and every month, I rejected their suggestions. (If I don't reject them, they bill me after the 5th of the month whether I choose something or not.) Retro-girl that I am, I have had a hankering for a pair of white booties. So when the monthly JustFab email arrived on Sunday, I decided to explore their offerings just for the heck of it and lo and behold, they had a pair of white booties to die for... if they only offered them in my size! And then I noticed that they had the boots in size 12! I checked other boots and shoes that they offered and discovered that most of them also had a size 12 option. I had no idea that JustFab started selling size 12's! When did that happen? Needless to say, I ordered the booties and they are on their way.
Source: JustFab
Wearing JustFab (Source: JustFab)
Mart Müürisepp
Mart Müürisepp femulates Nancy Sinatra on Estonian television's Your Face Sounds Familiar.

Etched Lace Men’s Bra

Alison alerted me to this "Etched Lace Men's Bra." The description for this men's brassiere reads, "We love the clean lines of this crisp monochromatic crop-top for men. Made from a medium-weight stretch fabric embossed with an etched lace design, this bra features a curved inset of lace at the bust for contouring. With a shaped athletic-styled back and pop-over styling for easy access. Etched Lace Men's Bra." So, who is selling this item of lingerie for lads? You would probably guess it was an online exotic lingerie store, but you would be wrong. It's ! Walmart also sells panties for men. What is this world coming to? 😉
Source: Boston Proper
Wearing Boston Proper (Source: Boston Proper)
Daniel Furlong
Daniel Furlong, male womenswear model