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Morning Kate. I feel like crap this morning. Thanks for making the coffee.What do you mean it’s not coffee? Funny joke. You know I’m not awake until I have my coffee…
Recently, I proffered, “Ask me anything” and Pat asked, “Were you naturally effeminate as a kid and ever called a sissy while going to school?”
Yes ― I was naturally effeminate as a kid. I know it was “natural” because at the time, I was not aware that I was effeminate.
I was not intentionally acting effeminate, I was acting as me, myself, and I, and as luck would have it, me, myself and I was very effeminate. So much so that my peers let me know it by calling me names like “sissy,” “twinky,” “fairy,” and worse.
At my first summer job, which was in a very macho environment, my nickname was “Zelda” in honor of my feminine ways.
At another summer job working in the receiving department of a department store where I unpacked and sorted women’s clothing all day long, one of my co-workers suggested that it must be my dream job because I got first shot at all the new dresses and lingerie before it went on the floor for sale to the public. He even showed me a private backroom where I could try on the clothing that I might like to purchase.
At my high school graduation, some of the jocks asked aloud why I wasn’t wearing a gold-colored graduation cap and gown like the other girls.
In college, the guy in the dorm room next door said I could borrow his girlfriend’s bra that she left behind after one of their evening rendezvous.
Et cetera, et cetera, et cetera.
I never changed my feminine ways even when I figured out what was going on. I knew how to fix the problem, but I rejected manning up and becoming macho because doing so was so incompatible with my nature.
On the other hand, dressing in woman’s clothing was a perfect fit. I already acted, moved, and spoke like a woman, so the clothing just completed the picture.
(Caveat Emptor: This is a redo of a 3-year-old post.)
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|Italian actress, writer, politician and television host, Vladimir Luxuria|
Eighty percent of women are wearing the wrong bra size.
Whether you’re wearing a ratty old friend you’re reluctant to replace, a fashion-y brassiere you like the color of or one in the size you’ve simply always worn, there’s an overwhelming probability you’re wearing an over-the-shoulder-boulder-holder that’s wrong for you.
“A lot of women stick to the number in their head from when they were first fit,” Kay-Lin Richardson, director of sales and spokeswoman for Panache Lingerie explained. “They’ll say, I’m a 34 B or a 36 C. I’ve been guilty of that. I couldn’t imagine that I would ever be a D cup because that wasn’t in my head and it wasn’t my size.”
But what most women don’t realize is that their bodies are constantly changing. A bra size could change with as little as a five-pound weight loss or gain, changing physical activity or even age. “You should probably get fit every year — just go and check in to make sure you’re still wearing the right size,” Richardson told StyleList. “You probably are, but you probably wouldn’t even realize that your bras aren’t fitting anymore because that’s just the way they’ve always fit you.”
It’s a societal epidemic that women need to address. We’re heavier than we’ve ever been, many women are augmenting their assets, and hormones in the food chain have changed the shape and size of assets. Consequently, there is a demand for sizes starting at 28 in band size and going up to FFF cups. The good news is that better data, improved engineering and manufacturers working with the changing bodies of women are creating choices where once there was none.
“If you went online now and were a 30 FFF, you’re not going to find the 34 B assortment, which is everything, but there’s probably 100 styles for that customer,” Richardson explained, which wasn’t the case even five years ago.
And that old rule of thumb about measuring your rib cage and adding five inches is pure malarkey. Each brand fits differently and a well-versed fitter will know what brands are true to that measurement and which ones you need to size up or down for.
“Go to a store that has a good reputation for fitting women,” Richardson said. Better specialty stores and a department store like Nordstrom usually have very good fitters. And if you have to shop online, follow the site’s fit guide, but keep an open mind — most of these sites have great return policies so you can try a couple of sizes and return what doesn’t work.
In case you’re not sure if you’re in the majority or minority, check you bra’s fit against these guidelines:
The band: Should be firm against your body to provide most of the support.
The shoulder straps: Should not be taking the brunt of the weight. If they’re digging into your flesh, you need a firmer fitting band.
The underwire: Should encapsulate the breast and should tack firmly against the body.
And sports bras are no different. They’re usually sized XS to XL, and knowing your size gives you a good starting point. “Take several sizes into the fitting room,” explained LeJean Lawson Ph.D., chief scientist at Champion, who helped invent the sports bra. “We don’t come in specific sizes — we’re all on the continuum — and the more atypical your body is, the more important it is to try different sizes.”
Lawson also stresses you need to take into consideration what you’ll be using the sports bra for. “Not all sports bras work for all sports. You might need flexibility, do a lot of running, reach up like when playing basketball or if you’re cycling, you might want more ease across the back. There are different design elements for each of these movements.”
There’s one big misconception that’s still out there, though, “Many women think of a sports bra as a compression, uni-boob thing,” Lawson said, clarifying that there are sports bras that offer encapsulation, compression, spot comfort and more, but all deal with the most important performance needs: managing sweat, managing chafe and providing support without hardware that will hurt you.
“At the end of the day, it’s about being comfortable, looking and feeling good,” Lawson concluded.
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What? You have an issue with me being a girl now? Deal with it.
Sure, I’m still getting use to being a girl, but it’s not that bad. I mean I deserved it.
After all, I pissed off a witch, and she cursed me.
Peak sandal wearing season begins in the spring and can last well into fall. Sandals can be worn with leggings, tights or socks (if you dare!) even during cold weather months. Take advantage of the extra long sandal season by studying up on the endless available styles, such as earthy leather flats, wooden wedges and sexy evening versions.
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